Your rant is very valid - working in the MSFS system is slow and quirky at times. But here are two things that might help (don't know if you are aware of these):
1) you do not need to start the sim to build a project - it can be done from the command prompt using the fspackagetool. I have a set of simple batch files to do that for all my projects. The batch file contains only one line:
Code:
"c:\MSFS SDK\Tools\bin\fspackagetool.exe" F:FS2020_projects\XXXX\XXXX.xml -rebuild -mirroring
where XXXX is the name of my project (my projects are all under F:\FS2020_projects).